A few years ago, I met a transman who began taking hormones the year I was born, 1955. He’s now 75. I was the second trans person he’d met face-to-face (that he knew of); the first was in 1956. This man is so used to secrecy and hiding, it has become second-nature to him. He’s [...]
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Archive for the ‘Life in Transition’ Category
by Reid Vanderburgh MA, LMFT
Trans Day of Remembrance
The Trans Day of Remembrance was created to honor and memorialize those trans people who have been killed just for being themselves. Honoring the dead keeps us mindful of the need for further work. However, we also need inspiration to keep our hopes high as we continue that work. I would like [...]
by Reid Vanderburgh MA, LMFT
When I was 39, my then-partner came out to me as trans, saying, “I’ve always felt like a man inside, and if I had the money, I’d have an operation tomorrow.” I had not yet realized consciously that I had gender issues of my own, and this remark began a process of my coming to [...]
by Reid Vanderburgh MA, LMFT
When I do educational presentations, the question often arises, “What is the best way to tell children one of their parents is transitioning? Doesn’t it harm the child in some way?” There are a number of variables to consider in answering these questions, but the first answer I give is that children are not harmed [...]
by Reid Vanderburgh MA, LMFT
In the late 1990s, I wrote an article for a queer newspaper in which I said that I thought transition was the most difficult, life-changing process a person could undertake willingly in life. A friend of mine read this article, and commented that she thought the decision to become a parent rivaled transition as a [...]
